A Song for International Women’s Day

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I don’t have a huge amount to say for International Women’s Day – I said to someone on Thursday when asked what I was doing today that honestly given my line of work, every day kinda feels like it’s about empowering women! 😅 

But, I understand the bigger significance of this day and why it’s important to use dates like this one to amplify important conversations and move the needle on critical issues.

 

Yesterday, I spent a beautiful afternoon and evening soaking at the hot springs with one of my dearest friends.

At one point, we were lying in the shade of a tree in a shallow pool, the 38 degree water keeping us warm while the breeze tickled our exposed skin.

Nearby in a cave, a woman began to sing and the depth and haunting tone of her voice, and the way it reverberated in the cave lulled us both into quiet presence as we listened.

She sang a song that literally only a few weeks ago I came across on YouTube for the first time, and the perfection of hearing it sung so beautifully right before IWD was not lost on me…

 

There’s a lot of work to be done for women’s rights around the world, including here in our own backyards. There are a lot of people dedicated to doing that important work. We can all contribute in little ways every day. Women matter. Girls matter. You matter. Keep going.

We are all born of women, and regardless of your individual relationships to your mother, there’s a very real line of women, without whose wombs and love and courage and blood, you simply wouldn’t be.

So, in celebration of women everywhere today, and the women who brought us this far…

Happy International Women’s Day

Here’s the song, and the lyrics…

 

Savage Daughter by Ekatrina Shelehova

I am my mother’s savage daughter

The one who runs barefoot

Cursing sharp stones

I am my mother’s savage daughter

I will not cut my hair

I will not lower my voice

 

My mother’s child is a savage

She looks for her omens in the colours of stones

In the faces of cats, in the falling of feathers

In the dancing of fire

In the curve of old bones

 

I am my mother’s savage daughter

The one who runs barefoot

Cursing sharp stones

I am my mother’s savage daughter

I will not cut my hair

I will not lower my voice

 

My mother’s child dances in darkness

She sings heathen songs

By the light of the moon

And watches the stars and renames the planets

And dreams she can reach them

With a song and a broom

 

I am my mother’s savage daughter

The one who runs barefoot

Cursing sharp stones

I am my mother’s savage daughter

I will not cut my hair

I will not lower my voice

 

We are all brought forth out of darkness

Into this world, through blood and through pain

And deep in our bones, the old songs are waking

So sing them with voices of thunder and rain

 

We are our mother’s savage daughters

The ones who run barefoot

Cursing sharp stones

We are our mother’s savage daughters

We will not cut our hair

We will not lower our voice

 

We are our mother’s savage daughters

The ones who run barefoot

Cursing sharp stones

We are our mother’s savage daughters

We will not cut our hair

We will not lower our voice…

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Never underestimate the power of your past. Because it’s not in the past. It’s here in this living moment with you – woven into your responses, choices and perceptions; baked into your nervous system and psyche through and reinforcement and repetition.

That doesn’t mean your past has to define you, not at all.

Though, you’re lying to yourself if you say ‘its in the past’, yet have done no work to clear the ripples of that past from your system to create space for something new.

Yesterday, in a session with my coach, I went ‘back in time’ to the end of 2020, when I went through an experience that was somewhat challenging for me.

Here is a sublime example

Despite acknowledging the challenge at the time, I realised looking back that I hadn’t fully resolved or digested what happened there.

Part of me stayed frozen in that experience, and on the subtlest of levels, I have gotten in my own way unconsciously ever since.

That past experience was with me in every moment. It informed my capacity and energy levels, choices and perceptions.

And this is how the past shapes us – you have experiences that your system ‘learns’ from, and you then – often completely unconsciously – adjust accordingly to avoid repeating painful or difficult events.

We are such clever adaptive creatures.

But, those ‘adaptations’ will inadvertently shape your behaviour, attitudes, thoughts and feelings in a way that can begin to inhibit your ability to fully show up for your business or career, relationships, and life in general.

If you bring the process of ‘learning’ from these past experiences into consciousness, you gift yourself the chance to mine the gold from the past, get the learnings and gifts link example: and then move forward with your life.

„ QUOTE DESIGN: I CALL THIS PROCESS ‘DIGESTING’ YOUR PAST EXPERIENCES, AND HAVE SPECIFIC PRACTICES I TEACH TO SUPPORT YOU TO DO THIS.“

I call this process ‘digesting’ your past experiences, and have specific practices I teach to support you to do this.

The challenges of the past – and your adaptations – can become like a cage you find yourself living in if you’re not aware, but this digestion process ensures your continued liberation…

Which past experiences do you need to free yourself from?

And this is how the past shapes us – you have experiences that your system ‘learns’ from, and you then – often completely unconsciously – adjust accordingly to avoid repeating painful or difficult events.

We are such clever adaptive creatures.

But, those ‘adaptations’ will inadvertently shape your behaviour, attitudes, thoughts and feelings in a way that can begin to inhibit your ability to fully show up for your business or career, relationships, and life in general.

If you bring the process of ‘learning’ from these past experiences into consciousness, you gift yourself the chance to mine the gold from the past, get the learnings.

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