How to be happy and start actually enjoying your life

Your actions and your awareness don’t have to go at the same speed.

Let me tell you what I mean.

Women are exhausted. That’s no secret.

There’s an exhaustion epidemic out there in driven women.

They’re running around DOING all the things.

Business. Family. Household. All the things.

So often when women sit in front of me who are exhausted and feeling unfulfilled in their lives, the shift that they need to make is very simple, yet quite challenging.

If this is you, there’s a very good chance your awareness – your consciousness – is ‘out there’ in everything that you do.

Your presence is already a step ahead of you anticipating what’s happening next and planning.

And in living like this you’ve already left yourself behind.

Left behind your ability to also be present with YOU. To feel YOU. To know what YOU need.

You do this to get things done. And slowing your awareness down can feel excruciating to begin with, to the part of you that believes you need to move at that speed to complete all the things.

It feels boring, low sensation, and perhaps even frightening.

Yet when you learn to slow your presence down in a way that means you can both ‘do the things’ AND feel yourself, you realise, you never needed to leave yourself behind in the first place.

Your ability to enJOY life is HERE, in feeling YOU in this moment. In noticing and appreciating what’s good.

Yes there are all sorts of other layers and variables to this. Other reasons women don’t slow down to feel themselves. But let’s keep it simple. This is where it begins.

So if you want to be more fulfilled, satisfied, happy, soft… learn to slow your awareness down so that you can do the things that you need to do, AND feel you.

Never underestimate the power of your past. Because it’s not in the past. It’s here in this living moment with you – woven into your responses, choices and perceptions; baked into your nervous system and psyche through and reinforcement and repetition.

That doesn’t mean your past has to define you, not at all.

Though, you’re lying to yourself if you say ‘its in the past’, yet have done no work to clear the ripples of that past from your system to create space for something new.

Yesterday, in a session with my coach, I went ‘back in time’ to the end of 2020, when I went through an experience that was somewhat challenging for me.

Here is a sublime example

Despite acknowledging the challenge at the time, I realised looking back that I hadn’t fully resolved or digested what happened there.

Part of me stayed frozen in that experience, and on the subtlest of levels, I have gotten in my own way unconsciously ever since.

That past experience was with me in every moment. It informed my capacity and energy levels, choices and perceptions.

And this is how the past shapes us – you have experiences that your system ‘learns’ from, and you then – often completely unconsciously – adjust accordingly to avoid repeating painful or difficult events.

We are such clever adaptive creatures.

But, those ‘adaptations’ will inadvertently shape your behaviour, attitudes, thoughts and feelings in a way that can begin to inhibit your ability to fully show up for your business or career, relationships, and life in general.

If you bring the process of ‘learning’ from these past experiences into consciousness, you gift yourself the chance to mine the gold from the past, get the learnings and gifts link example: and then move forward with your life.

„ QUOTE DESIGN: I CALL THIS PROCESS ‘DIGESTING’ YOUR PAST EXPERIENCES, AND HAVE SPECIFIC PRACTICES I TEACH TO SUPPORT YOU TO DO THIS.“

I call this process ‘digesting’ your past experiences, and have specific practices I teach to support you to do this.

The challenges of the past – and your adaptations – can become like a cage you find yourself living in if you’re not aware, but this digestion process ensures your continued liberation…

Which past experiences do you need to free yourself from?

We are such clever adaptive creatures.

If you bring the process of ‘learning’ from these past experiences into consciousness, you gift yourself the chance to mine the gold from the past, get the learnings.