IF YOU WANT SOMETHING NEW, YOU NEED TO DO SOMETHING NEW

Last week I hosted my most successful live event in my business, ever.

SO many celebrations!

I had the most number of women in attendance I’ve ever had at an event, the majority of whom were new to my audience and had not worked with me previously.

And as a result, new women are either stepping into working with me now, or excited about doing so in the new year…

The event was highly engaged and despite being unknown to most of the women there, I finished the event with over 80% of participants still on the call. (And most of those who did leave followed up and shared they left for personal reasons, not because it wasn’t resonating).

The feedback has been gorgeous, with women sharing about feeling more equipped to deal with stress, more relaxed and connected with themselves and inspired about the possibility of moving through the world in this way.

Heading into the event, I had specific goals about how many women I wanted there and the sales I wanted to generate.

My business coach knew I was going for MORE than I’d created and received before, and he shared a challenge with me…

We knew what my outcomes would most likely look like, based on my previous events, and knowing me, my patterns and my nervous system capacity.

My coach pointed to this, and said “I really want you to achieve the goal you’ve set for this event. AND, if you DO want this YOU NEED TO DO SOMETHING DIFFERENTLY.”

At this point, this doesn’t sound like revolutionary advice – after all we all know definition of insanity.

But there’s a layer to this advice that isn’t immediately obvious but is VERY IMPORTANT that I want to share about today.

Taking different action ISN’T ENOUGH.

I see women do this all the time. And I’ve done it myself.

In relationship, in business, in their health goals.

Not getting the result they want, trying some different strategy or action, still not getting the result they want…

Confused. Frustrated. Disappointed.

See, it’s not enough to just DO something differently.

You have to BECOME someone different.

There are unconscious patterns, thresholds and beliefs wired into your unconscious that express through your thoughts, feelings, actions and habits.

When we’re told to do something different, that’s only half the battle.

You can take new action and still be stuck in the old state and consciousness that says “I don’t believe I can have what I want.” or some other variation.

Many women carry resistance to the things they desire.

The attuned, present, generous partner.

The next-level income goal.

Your past experiences have woven together to create an embodied narrative that dictates your ability to remain optimistic and engaged in the face of challenges and setbacks, trust in life and believe in the possibilities you desire.

This narrative either supports you to keep leaning in, opening, being creative and resourceful and having FUN on the way to creating your outcomes.

OR, will have you “self sabotage” (protect yourself) by subtly closing off, abandoning your creation before it’s come to fruition and otherwise not believing in and seeing through your wants.

This can happen in such a subtle way that you don’t even SEE it for what it is.

SO, what do you really WANT right now?

Something NEW. Something you haven’t had before.

And I invite you to go beyond just considering the action required to make it happen, and explore how you think and feel about yourself having that.

Does your body feel open and available, or are there parts of you closed down to your wanting.

If you want something new, you must become someone new.

Never underestimate the power of your past. Because it’s not in the past. It’s here in this living moment with you – woven into your responses, choices and perceptions; baked into your nervous system and psyche through and reinforcement and repetition.

That doesn’t mean your past has to define you, not at all.

Though, you’re lying to yourself if you say ‘its in the past’, yet have done no work to clear the ripples of that past from your system to create space for something new.

Yesterday, in a session with my coach, I went ‘back in time’ to the end of 2020, when I went through an experience that was somewhat challenging for me.

Here is a sublime example

Despite acknowledging the challenge at the time, I realised looking back that I hadn’t fully resolved or digested what happened there.

Part of me stayed frozen in that experience, and on the subtlest of levels, I have gotten in my own way unconsciously ever since.

That past experience was with me in every moment. It informed my capacity and energy levels, choices and perceptions.

And this is how the past shapes us – you have experiences that your system ‘learns’ from, and you then – often completely unconsciously – adjust accordingly to avoid repeating painful or difficult events.

We are such clever adaptive creatures.

But, those ‘adaptations’ will inadvertently shape your behaviour, attitudes, thoughts and feelings in a way that can begin to inhibit your ability to fully show up for your business or career, relationships, and life in general.

If you bring the process of ‘learning’ from these past experiences into consciousness, you gift yourself the chance to mine the gold from the past, get the learnings and gifts link example: and then move forward with your life.

„ QUOTE DESIGN: I CALL THIS PROCESS ‘DIGESTING’ YOUR PAST EXPERIENCES, AND HAVE SPECIFIC PRACTICES I TEACH TO SUPPORT YOU TO DO THIS.“

I call this process ‘digesting’ your past experiences, and have specific practices I teach to support you to do this.

The challenges of the past – and your adaptations – can become like a cage you find yourself living in if you’re not aware, but this digestion process ensures your continued liberation…

Which past experiences do you need to free yourself from?

We are such clever adaptive creatures.

If you bring the process of ‘learning’ from these past experiences into consciousness, you gift yourself the chance to mine the gold from the past, get the learnings.