Relationships are undoubtedly one of the greatest sources of beauty and fulfilment in my life.
Relationships (all kinds of relationships – friendships, co-creative working relationships, intimate relationships, familial relationships etc) are undoubtedly one of the greatest sources of beauty and fulfilment in my life.
They are also, one of the sources of the greatest suffering, challenge and pain.
Relationships are great magnifiers…
It’s natural to experience greater joy and laughter, when sharing those waves of joy and laughter with another. Touch deeper places of ecstasy, surrender and pleasure in union with another.
Deeper opening to love and gratitude exists in the sharing of a hand squeeze with a beloved friend than alone. Creative power between business partners or a team of people united under a shared vision is a thing to behold!
Similarly, relationships will magnify your insecurities.
They will show you where you’re not taking responsibility for yourself, your needs or your commitments. They will reveal patterns of behaviour and your potentially unhealthy coping mechanisms that would otherwise remain hidden.
Relationships show you where you undervalue yourself, where you don’t trust people – and life. They show you your biases and preferences, your ego, the ways you expect too little – or too much.
It’s human nature to want connection. We are social creatures. Our systems atrophy when we don’t experience regular and meaningful skin to skin touch. Our biology and our psychology is literally designed to thrive in the crucible of rich, dynamic human relationship.
But if you want all the BEAUTY of human connection, you’ve got the be prepared to deal with the challenge, too. Sometimes this means clearing out the ‘old ways’ to create space for healthier patterns of relating if your early blueprints of relationship left you with habits that don’t support you to create the kinds of connections that you most want.
What relationship patterns are you ready to let go of, and what NEW relationship realities do you want to create for yourself?